As said, it depends on the drummer and there is no well defined rules to how a drum stick should be. Each drummer feels comfortable with certain type of drum sticks. The tip, Shaft, shoulder and butt varies and so does the option of drummer. But few guide lines when followed will help choosing drum sticks
- sticks should be of equal weight
- sticks should be straight , try rolling them to find out if they are straight
- do not choose tip which have sharp (nearly sharp) edge. they might damage the leather on drums
- ppl prefer bit heavy drum sticks for rock and light sticks for county/light music. So the weight purely depends on the person who is playing and what he is playing.
- for beginners try selecting bit heavy sticks ..as and when you proceed you will learn what kind of stick you need.
And so does the bigshots have their own custom made drum sticks, with particular type of wood its made also..